It’s not news that Chimamanda has separated from the Nigerian Catholic church dogma she was born into, what’s new are the details that led to this happening she recently shared in her piece titled Dreaming as a single family published in a recent edition of the L’osservatore Romano weekly bulletin.
The main points have been curated below, read on and feel free to share your thoughts if the points she raised are something you, too, can relate to.
“I was raised Catholic, on the campus of the University of Nigeria. We attended a love-filled church run by the Spiritan congregation.”
“As a teenager, I wore my Catholic identity like a favorite dress, joyfully and reverently. I was a self-styled Catholic apologist, arguing passionately with the Protestant children in defense of such subjects as the Blessed Virgin Mary, tradition, and transubstantiation.”
“I remember my first moment of recoil from the church, when a gentle and devout couple was banned from communion because their daughter had married an Anglican.”
“It felt to me not only uncharitable, but unnecessarily so, as did other subsequent incidents, such as poor people who were refused burials because they owed money to the church.
“This happened in my ancestral hometown, in a provincial parish far from the university campus where I grew up. But after the Spiritans left, an uncharitable chill also descended on my university church.
“On Sundays, women of all ages were often harassed, men barring their entry into the church unless they wrapped themselves in shawls to hide their shoulders and arms (which apparently would cause men in the church to sin.)”
“Entire homilies were dedicated to the wiles and evils of women. How unsettling to sit through Mass feeling as though one, simply by being born female, had become inherently guilty of a crime.”
“My alienation deepened; I had become a person in a place that my spirit had outgrown. Even if I still attended Mass from time to time, it brought me no meaning, and I have since come to believe that meaning is what makes life worthwhile.”