Fatima and Ken were very close friends, always seen together like the inseparable sides of a coin. Those that didn’t know them thought they were siblings. Only few persons knew that Fatima and Ken were actually neighbors, living in flats opposite each other..
On several occasions Ken’s dad a widower had done everything within his power to prevent Ken from seeing Fatima but all his attempts were futile. He was left with no option but let the children be.
“After all, they are still young” he concluded.
Ken had lost his mother to an accident seven years before, when he was just five years old.
Mrs. John, Ken’s mum died in a ghastly motor accident between a truck and the vehicle she boarded while returning from the wedding ceremony of her friend. The accident was deadly as it claimed lots of lives leaving Ken without a mother.
To Mr John, life had stolen that one person that meant the world to him.
Like he fondly calls her, “My Woman, My World”
He made a vow to himself that he wouldn’t remarry but would give Ken the best kind of life in honor of his dearest wife.
That was about Mr John and his late wife but right now this is about young Ken of twelve years old attaching himself to Fatima..
Fatima, on the other hand, had her Mum as her only surviving parent..
Her dad, Mr Fadi, a business tycoon was shot in an armed robbery attack in their former house. The leader of the gang must have targeted his shot accurately, as Mr Fadi died immediately..
Just like Mr John, Mrs Fadi had refused to moved on, stating that there is no man that can be like her late husband..
To Ken and Fatima, they had both tasted the ugly part of life. This formed the basis of their discussions each time they met, consoling themselves. Talks led to discussions and discussion built intimacy. When intimacy has been established it becomes difficult to separate both parties.
No man can actually put fire in his bosom without being burnt: This was the case of young Ken and Fatima. The fondness had deposited seeds in their hearts which started bearing fruits. From holding of hands to pecking then to kissing, romance and finally sex..
Did I just say SEX?
That was what ended the whole journey the young heart started unguided..
As for Ken, the act WASN’T HIS FAULT..
Well, Do you think Fatima would accept it as her own fault. To her, it WASN’T HER FAULT either Or was it the FAULT of their parents?
I think both parents should have enlightened their children on relationships with the opposite sex. For crying out loud, Ken was 12 and Fatima,10. They were still kids when they embarked on this journey..
I thought you promised yourself and your late wife that you were going to give Ken the best kind of life?? What kind of life is one without enlightenment on the needful.
Fatima is your only daughter if I remember very well. Your time should have been devoted to her, giving her the girl child education but you spent it honoring invitations for meetings and occasions.
You were the chair lady of the occasion on the day Fatima had sex for the first time. It was a Saturday. What prevented you from staying at home with your only daughter whom you barely have time for during the week.
Thoughts of Fatima and Ken made my tears flow helplessly. I couldn’t help but weep at the sight of treasures devalued. It breaks my heart when I behold heritage thrown into the mud.
Often times, We don’t give Adequate Knowledge to the young ones so they become vulnerable to the wrong knowledge the society has to offer.
This is why I have written this..
PARENTING has to be INTENTIONAL..
Youths, Singles, Married and all potential Parent, Let’s learn and be trained on Parenting..
Parenting is beyond school fees, text books, clothes and food. It is beyond a roof over the head of a child. It extends to satisfying the emotional, psychological, social, needs of a child.
Children need your Time, Energy and Money to grow healthy and become productive. In every child lies a generation and an assignment that must be groomed into fulfillment.
Parent what sexual act do you indulge in the presence of your children?
Youths what movies do you see with your younger siblings around?
What kind of words do you say to them?
They might not understand these things at the moment but it is a seed sown that might germinate in the future.
I call for Proper Information Management..
When you spend time with your child, what are you saying? Are you saying hurtful words that destroys their self esteem, are you saying words of edification to them. Are you sowing corruptible words into their subconscious mind.?
Tell them the right things at the right time.
We must Educate our children on what they need to know at each stage of their lives and withhold those they shouldn’t know yet.
Never hide any truth from a child! You don’t have to be too shy not to tell a child the truth.
Parents and Potential Parents,
Children of this generation know more than we think, that is why we have to become Intentional about them.
If we can get ourselves trained just to grow domestic animals very well, why can’t we get the right training on How we could nurture our children who are gifts from God.
Let us awaken to the call for INTENTIONAL PARENTING.
Every hand must be on deck! You and I have to be involved because we are all contributors to a Child’s well being.
I write for my love for children.
I write for my love for Teenagers.
I believe in every Nigerian Child.
Never be too busy for your children!