Ever heard that popular saying;
“There is a chapter of our life that we do not read out loud?”
Well, I guess most if not all of us have had to write this chapter of our lives. Many of us are broken. Many of us have had to undergo things that change who we are and our lives forever. There are things that happen to us in this life that we have no control over. There are things also that we do by ourselves which we come to regret later. “We all have scars, yes”.
Every day, every minute, someone out there has had to commit suicide because of the guilt of what they have done or the trauma that comes with what was done to them.
All the time we hear stories of rape, broken homes, broken marriages just to name a few and it leaves both mental and psychological strain in our lives.
We tend to replay the event that has scarred us. We play the if I had known game repeatedly in our mind. We tend to try to fix our past. Forgetting that as we play that game we lose in the moments of our lives. We lose in the moments that we could share with our loved ones.
We tend to live each day judging ourselves by the front stage of someone’s life and forgetting the fact that we all do not have the same purpose in life.
Whether it is rape or sexual assault what is done is done. You can’t change that fact. We must all learn to rise above our demons. We must learn to fight the urge, the temptation to settle in our guilt.
We must fight for our self-esteem not to be diminished.
We must strive every day to throw away the bad things which cloud our judgment. We must stop seeking vengeance and forgive, because then we will have truly lived. So, if you have anything that you have been battling with, anything at all you think that you cannot get through. I want to tell you that you will survive, you have survived, and you will keep surviving.
The scars that we must live with don’t define who we are. It barely says anything about who we are to become.
I also want to tell you that you can get healed from old wounds but first you must forgive the person who has left you with this trauma. You also must forgive yourself because then you will have the courage to move on and to live your life. You cannot beat a raging storm into submission; you must rather calm yourself and build the habit of forgiveness. No one can do this for you, it must be a personal decision that we make in order to ease ourselves of guilt and not just that, but also for us to let go of the trauma and live. Just live your life.